Parenting teens and tweens means talking about sex. Whether it's our sex-negative culture, poor sex education, or misinformation from free online porn, raising teens today requires more than just “the talk”. Comprehensive sex ed curriculum in school is a start, but the most effective safe sex education can happen at home. Are you ready?
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Have you ever noticed how sex is everywhere but no one wants to talk about it?
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Barefaced game has been test driven by many families at this point, as well as sex educators, counselors and therapists. I think this will be a new tool we can refer people to when they don't know how to talk to their kids about sexuality.
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