I confess…I think geometry is sexy.
You may think that’s weird, but you might change your mind once you understand why.
To start, you’re probably wondering what the heck does geometry have to do with sexuality?
The artsy fartsy sex ed project for this week was inspired by a card from Barefaced game.
This card makes me think about how difficult it can be to explain sexuality.
As a result, I went down the rabbit hole of simplifying the concept through geometry…here we go!
Geometry creates the foundation for all living things, including a visual representation of our sexuality. If you look closely, you can see sexy geometry everywhere: plants, animals, and humans are living geometric structures.
All life starts out as basic shapes. Those shapes build on themselves to form more shapes, until the life form is complete.
I realize this sounds complicated, so let me explain it in simpler terms.
When the human egg and sperm join forces, our bodies begin as two circles. One from the egg, and one from the sperm.
When a sperm enters an egg, the tail magically disappears. The pronucleus of the sperm grows to match the exact size of the pronucleus of the egg.
That miraculous transformation is just the beginning.
These two circles then start to pass through each other, creating a geometrical relationship called the vesica piscis. Now, things are getting even more exciting.
The two circles keep moving closer until they become one. At this point, the one circle made up of two circles identically divides eight times.
These first eight divisions contain all the information needed for life to take shape.
By connecting the centers of these first eight cell divisions (circles), we can create all sorts of foundational geometric shapes.
This blows my mind.
When I was studying Holistic Sexuality Education, we learned about professor Dennis Dailey’s Circles of Sexuality.
He made this visual model in order to illustrate all of the elements that make up our sexuality.
There are six categories:
1. Sensuality- This is about our senses, cycles of pleasure and desire, body image, and fantasies.
2. Intimacy- Involves things like caring, sharing, liking, loving, trust, vulnerability, self disclosure, and emotional risk taking.
3. Sexual Identity- How we see ourselves as sexual beings. For example: our gender identity, gender roles, and sexual orientation.
4. Sexual Health and Reproduction- Sexual behavior throughout our lifetime. It includes things like anatomy, birth control, and sexually transmitted infections.
5. Sexualization- How we use our sexuality. Some examples are flirting, media messages, seduction, withholding sex, sexual harassment, incest, and rape.
6. Values- Our values are influenced by family, culture, spirituality, laws, professions, science, and politics.
Sexuality may seem simple, but it’s actually complex.
The Circles of Sexuality is a like map that helps break it all down. Even though it’s thorough, it can still be too much to process at once.
I want the concept of sexuality to be easier to grasp; especially for young people with short attention spans.
Ideally, kids need a simple visual element that easily pops into their mind.
Along with a Barefaced card and the Circles of Sexuality, this week’s project is also inspired by the “Seed of Life”.
When I first saw the Circles of Sexuality, it reminded me of an ancient geometric shape I learned about years ago called the “Seed of Life”.
This shape is made up of eight circles perfectly connected to each other. (Remember the eight cell divisions that happen when a sperm fertilizes an egg?)
I realized the information contained in the Circles of Sexuality fit perfectly into the Seed of Life. When these circles are aligned, they create a flower.
A flower is the reproductive part of a plant, and also the perfect geometric representation of our sexuality!
The goal of this week’s project is to learn the difference between sex and sexuality by creating some sexy geometry.
All we need is a compass, a pencil, and a piece of paper.
Everyone starts by drawing an empty circle in the middle of the page. The space inside the circle represents you, and the line surrounding it represents your boundaries.
In a perfect world, nothing would enter our circle without our consent. But, life isn’t perfect.
Our sexuality is formed by what we allow in our circle, and whatever makes it in without permission.
The remaining time is devoted to explaining, and drawing the remaining circles. When the six circles representing the various aspects of sexuality interact with the center circle, sexuality comes to life.
When I say it comes to life, I don’t mean sexuality poofs into being. That happens the moment we’re born.
What I mean is, it starts to dance around and change shape. Our sexuality is as alive as we are.
When the kids drew their sexy geometry, they didn’t line up their compass perfectly. As a result, their flowers came out looking asymmetrical.
There’s beauty in this imperfection…it’s true to life.
Our sexuality changes over time, and with different experiences. It’s in constant motion.
I could see an “ah ha” look in the kid’s eyes when they finished drawing. Now they get it.
The kids labeled the circles on their own. They were into what I was saying…soaking it in like a sponge.
By actually creating their own visual aid, they now grasp the complexity of human sexuality. They now understand that our sexuality is more than just sexual activity and body parts.
The complicated truth is, sexuality is art, math, and science doing a beautiful dance together.
Now do you see why I think geometry is sexy?
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