About The Creator

On a Spring day in 2014 Nyssa pulled up to the school parking lot in her gold mini-van named Vagine. Her 6th grade niece, 2nd grade nephew, and 2nd grade daughter piled in while asking “what’s an orgasm?” 

Nyssa explains, “I froze. I knew this day would come and thought I had it covered, but I didn’t know it would feel so awkward! My first reaction was to avoid it and ask “didn’t your teacher answer that in sex ed class today?”

It turns out she did ask what an orgasm is in health class that day; anonymously on a piece of paper placed in the question box. The teacher read it out loud and announced it was an “inappropriate” question that she would not answer. In that moment the entire 5th grade class learned that sexual pleasure was something to be ashamed of. My niece was embarrassed and confused. I was shocked that shame and fear were still being taught in “health” class.

At recess that day, orgasms were the trending topic of discussion. Classmates shared everything they thought they knew; information gathered from mainstream media and free porn. I couldn’t believe how much information and misinformation these kids already had by 5th grade!

I tried to set things straight on our ride home by stammering through my own explanation of an orgasm. Then we got home and searched up “orgasm” online. It was overwhelming, shocking, and difficult for a kid to determine fact from fiction. At that moment, I realized that I may be cool enough to name my mini-van Vagine, but I still had a lot to learn about raising tweens and teens.

The more I spoke with other parents (and kids), the problem became clear. Schools barely scratch the surface of what needs to be talked about, parents can’t possibly be aware of everything their kids come across online, and kids are turning to the internet for to learn about sex because the adults are not offering enough honest guidance. Something had to change!

I decided to become certified in Holistic Sexuality Education so I could help. I learned that it’s ideal to have lots of little conversations with your kids about sex and sexuality. I also know as a parent that’s easier said than done.

I created Barefaced to help make it easier to talk about sex with your friends, family, and loved ones. It doesn’t have to be awkward and can actually be fun!  

I believe sexuality is the core of who we are, and sexually healthy individuals are the foundation of healthy societies. It’s time to be honest, open-minded, and celebrate our sexual well being.”